Author Archives: Tani Bahti (Blog Writer, SevenPonds)

Dementia and Redefining Quality of Life

A mother-daughter journey into the unknown

The idea of dementia or dependence appalled my mother. For many years, she declared, “If I ever get Alzheimer’s, take me out and shoot me!” Her definition of quality of life was firmly grounded in her ability to think and … Continue reading

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Is Anything Scarier than Dying?

Preempt the haunting of the ‘should’ve, could’ve’ regrets

A roller coaster ride suddenly drops 500 feet. A frantic car horn helps you steer your bike out of the way of an erratic driver. Your tumor biopsy comes back negative. All of these scenarios can precipitate a fear of … Continue reading

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Visions as Messages at the End of Life

Opening to the mystery

By the time my mother-in- law was dying, I had been a student of those facing the end of life for many years. They taught me to expand my awareness and be open to the mystery of visions and the … Continue reading

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Broken Heart Syndrome and Dying Together – Or Not

Finding meaning in a couple's life and death journey

There are numerous touching stories about broken heart syndrome, in which long-time couples die moments or days apart. The family is sad, but comforted by the belief that “they wanted to be together” at the end. Like many, I love these … Continue reading

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Transforming Living While Dying with Dementia

A true story of letting go of the old and embracing the new

Dying has a way of transforming living, sometimes in powerful ways. I usually consider dying with dementia a double whammy – first the existential death of the person you once knew, and finally the physical death. Letting go and accepting a … Continue reading

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Tube Feedings at the End of Life

For those who are dying, tube feedings provide more burden than benefit

When a person begins to eat less, lose weight and have difficulty swallowing, the issue of using tube feedings to optimize nutrition and safety often arises. For their intended use, tube feedings can be a benefit. Their intended use is … Continue reading

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