Category Archives: Dying Well

Transforming the Legacy of Suicide – Part Two

From unraveling to weaving my own tapestry

It was my 18th birthday — five months to the day after my father’s suicide. Tears arrived without warning, without my permission. They burst through the protective armor that had been slowly eroding away through my process of denial and minimization. … Continue reading

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When The Legacy is Suicide

The initial impact

When I was a child, my family was a strong, stoic clan. We valued fierce independence above all else. Asking for help or seeking recognition was not acceptable. Neither love nor grief was talked about or expressed. Any acknowledgment of … Continue reading

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How Dare You Die Now!

Acknowledging the anger or pain of an earlier-than-expected death

“I’m so angry – I can’t forgive him for dying and leaving me,” whispered Amy. “Does that make me a bad person?” Sweethearts since high school, Amy and Don had been inseparable, and married at age 20. Now, the future they had … Continue reading

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I Wish This Was Over!

Uncensored truths about caregiving and prolonged dying – Part One

After struggling to give her mother a bath for 45 minutes, Rene’s patience was spent. Her mother’s Alzheimer’s caused her to resist the bath, and Rene had to deflect her flailing arms and verbal assaults. With no time to take a … Continue reading

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A Holiday Album: The Gift of a Life Review

A priceless way to honor your and your loved one's lives

Working with and being the student of those facing the end of life for many years, I have witnessed what really matters in living and in dying. Prompted to examine the life I was living and the legacy I would … Continue reading

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The Death Rattle — Not Music to Your Ears?

The death rattle can be unnerving and scary for loved ones, but adding overriding noise can help

As a person gets closer to death, they can begin a type of noisy breathing that sounds like a wet snore. Called the “death rattle,” it can be difficult to listen to. Thankfully, it is not too common. Because it’s … Continue reading

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