Category Archives: Dying Well

When a Loved One Chooses to Stop Treatment

That doesn’t mean they want to die

  Your loved one chooses to stop treatment that may provide more weeks or months of life. Perhaps they refuse more chemotherapy or continued dialysis. Although it may seem contradictory, this refusal of ongoing treatment does not mean he or … Continue reading

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Facing Your Own Death

Can you really prepare now?

Because of my years of hospice experience, I have no fear of dying. And I want to believe I will know when it’s time to let go. But do we ever really know how we will respond? Can we really … Continue reading

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Transforming the Legacy of Suicide – Part Two

From unraveling to weaving my own tapestry

It was my 18th birthday — five months to the day after my father’s suicide. Tears arrived without warning, without my permission. They burst through the protective armor that had been slowly eroding away through my process of denial and minimization. … Continue reading

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When The Legacy is Suicide

The initial impact

When I was a child, my family was a strong, stoic clan. We valued fierce independence above all else. Asking for help or seeking recognition was not acceptable. Neither love nor grief was talked about or expressed. Any acknowledgment of … Continue reading

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How Dare You Die Now!

Acknowledging the anger or pain of an earlier-than-expected death

“I’m so angry – I can’t forgive him for dying and leaving me,” whispered Amy. “Does that make me a bad person?” Sweethearts since high school, Amy and Don had been inseparable, and married at age 20. Now, the future they had … Continue reading

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I Wish This Was Over!

Uncensored truths about caregiving and prolonged dying – Part One

After struggling to give her mother a bath for 45 minutes, Rene’s patience was spent. Her mother’s Alzheimer’s caused her to resist the bath, and Rene had to deflect her flailing arms and verbal assaults. With no time to take a … Continue reading

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