Category Archives: Dying Well

Transforming Living While Dying with Dementia

A true story of letting go of the old and embracing the new

Dying has a way of transforming living, sometimes in powerful ways. I usually consider dying with dementia a double whammy – first the existential death of the person you once knew, and finally the physical death. Letting go and accepting a … Continue reading

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Tube Feedings at the End of Life

For those who are dying, tube feedings provide more burden than benefit

When a person begins to eat less, lose weight and have difficulty swallowing, the issue of using tube feedings to optimize nutrition and safety often arises. For their intended use, tube feedings can be a benefit. Their intended use is … Continue reading

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When a Loved One Chooses to Stop Treatment

That doesn’t mean they want to die

  Your loved one chooses to stop treatment that may provide more weeks or months of life. Perhaps they refuse more chemotherapy or continued dialysis. Although it may seem contradictory, this refusal of ongoing treatment does not mean he or … Continue reading

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Facing Your Own Death

Can you really prepare now?

Because of my years of hospice experience, I have no fear of dying. And I want to believe I will know when it’s time to let go. But do we ever really know how we will respond? Can we really … Continue reading

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Transforming the Legacy of Suicide – Part Two

From unraveling to weaving my own tapestry

It was my 18th birthday — five months to the day after my father’s suicide. Tears arrived without warning, without my permission. They burst through the protective armor that had been slowly eroding away through my process of denial and minimization. … Continue reading

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When The Legacy is Suicide

The initial impact

When I was a child, my family was a strong, stoic clan. We valued fierce independence above all else. Asking for help or seeking recognition was not acceptable. Neither love nor grief was talked about or expressed. Any acknowledgment of … Continue reading

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