Category Archives: Dying Well

Dying Around the Holidays

Reframing the memory of death on a special day

“Please don’t let him die on my birthday!” “If he dies on Christmas, I will never be able to celebrate again!” It’s hard enough that someone we love is dying. It can seem even worse when they are dying around … Continue reading

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Dementia and Redefining Quality of Life

A mother-daughter journey into the unknown

The idea of dementia or dependence appalled my mother. For many years, she declared, “If I ever get Alzheimer’s, take me out and shoot me!” Her definition of quality of life was firmly grounded in her ability to think and … Continue reading

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Is Anything Scarier than Dying?

Preempt the haunting of the ‘should’ve, could’ve’ regrets

A roller coaster ride suddenly drops 500 feet. A frantic car horn helps you steer your bike out of the way of an erratic driver. Your tumor biopsy comes back negative. All of these scenarios can precipitate a fear of … Continue reading

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Visions as Messages at the End of Life

Opening to the mystery

By the time my mother-in- law was dying, I had been a student of those facing the end of life for many years. They taught me to expand my awareness and be open to the mystery of visions and the … Continue reading

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Broken Heart Syndrome and Dying Together – Or Not

Finding meaning in a couple's life and death journey

There are numerous touching stories about broken heart syndrome, in which long-time couples die moments or days apart. The family is sad, but comforted by the belief that “they wanted to be together” at the end. Like many, I love these … Continue reading

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Transforming Living While Dying with Dementia

A true story of letting go of the old and embracing the new

Dying has a way of transforming living, sometimes in powerful ways. I usually consider dying with dementia a double whammy – first the existential death of the person you once knew, and finally the physical death. Letting go and accepting a … Continue reading

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