Our Weekly Tip: Turn Your Grief Into a Gratitude Meditation

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Our Tip of the Week: Grief and loss are deeply intertwined. Why would we grieve anyone if we felt that there was no loss? It can be useful to notice, then, what has been lost. The first thing that may come to mind is the body — the physical expression of the person you love, whose body held a magnetic field/vibration/aura that you could feel when they were near. This is physics, and yes, this state of being embodied is a temporary adventure for us all. Ask yourself what else you will miss — the way they hugged you, or knew exactly what to say when words failed everyone else — and notice the endings. Notice, too, what you can keep, and pass on to nourish the generations to come: the memories of time spent together, shared epiphanies and the mutual growth intrinsic in relationship. Notice how that person helped you understand yourself better. Here we begin the journey of mourning what has ended and celebrating what lasts.

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How-to Suggestion: Notice what you miss about your loved one and the relationship you shared. For both the ending and enduring aspects, notice how much you value them. Make a list. Think of the positive impact they had on your life. Write it down. Then, think of what your life might have been like had you not enjoyed these things for the time you did. Celebrate that time, not needing it to be any longer or different than how it was. Celebrate and honor what did not endure, in a way that is meaningful to you. And then celebrate what has.